Masturbation or self-lovin’ is one of the greatest gifts we can give to ourselves and our partners (by this I mean, letting someone watch you touch yourself can be incredibly sexy) and of course, getting to know yourself is beneficial for all involved.
I know it can be a little bit cliché to write a good ol’ how to find your g-spot article. But I’m going to do it anyway, because vaginal orgasm and ultimately g-spot orgasm can be one of the most vitalising and energising experiences we can give to ourselves.
How we experience these kinds of orgasms will be different to an external clitoral orgasm. There is no right or wrong, better or worse, we just explore and label possibilities and really just leave it up to loving and sexy discovery, which helps us feel connected and alive.
Every cisgendered woman* is different, beautiful and likes different things - you must adapt to what your partner enjoys. The tips in this article are some of our sexy tips that have helped many women have a really good time. It is important to remember though that these tips are not a one size fits all. Some women may like it fast, some slow, some, slow then fast, some may like it slow... but only on a Tuesday... get it? Take time getting to know your woman.
There really is no black and white when it comes to female ejaculation. We do know it has been documented throughout history in sex texts and through other anatomical research. However, the first official research was engaged in by Dr. Beverly Whipple and Dr. John Perry who concluded that during intense sexual excitement, or as orgasm approaches, many women produce a clear, alkaline fluid that is not urine and it can vary in amount from a few drops to about a quarter of a cup (Rebecca Chalker, The Clitoral Truth).
Here is the thing about great sex and female desire: The psychology of female desire has very little to do with sexual prowess. Whether you are a woman or in sexual partnership with a woman, having an understanding of responsive sexual desire and spontaneous sexual desire can be fundamental to whether or not you’re going to have sex tonight.